Are you ‘SHOULDING’ on yourself? “Good woman syndrome”

Are you ‘SHOULDING’ on yourself?

Have you felt like you’ve placed a lot of restrictions on yourself on what you think you “should do”? Cultivating your decisions on the rules you have for yourself and who you “want to be”.

When I became single for the first time in 25 years, I had had so many rules.

I wanted to be in a different stage than I was in at times esp when I met a “great man” and so many people had opinions:

- date
- don’t date
- date a lot
- date online
- let him come to you
-have s€x
- don’t have s€x
-have lots of s€x
- oh a fav- you’re racing to clock right because in a few years you’ll be too old to find a quality partner 😳(that was told to me when I was 46).

Personally, I had to be “nobody’s” for a while because I spent the better part of my adulthood “coupled”. I wanted to be certain I authentically aligned with the ME OF TODAY and fully inspected me (with outside help) to take the parts I wanted to keep and reinvent the parts I didn’t. Discern what was me and what was the me I became for that relationship.

Only YOU will know / feel what you need. Apologize to no one. Do the things or the nothing.

This is YOUR journey and if you’re doing it to please an audience of 1 of 1,000,000 outside of self and your soul then you will NEVER get the the ultimate, authentic YOU.

Take your journey to get to …YOU luv.

Trust your process.